Monday, January 20, 2014

Creating and Talking to kids about Pornography

We were put on this earth to create. God the Father of our spirits is the supreme example of creating. His son was sent here on earth to redeem us from the fall. While on this earth though we get to create. Not as we may one day be able to create but as we can on this earth. We get to create bodies for children. As I have brought each of these children into the world I feel like Eve to exclaim as in Moses 5:11:

  "And Eve, his wife, heard all these things and was glad, saying: Were it not for our transgression we never should have had seed, and never should have known good and evil, and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient."

Opposite of Creating....Pornography:

Talking about pornography. I have tried to get better at it but it is something that has had a big affect on my life. I came across this blog and I have struggled with how to talk to my little ones about pornography. I have seen my 5 year old son looking at an immodest picture and being drawn to stare at it. It bothers me and I just distract him. I almost feel triggered and afraid for his future becasue I love him so much and I see the devistating affects that pornography have on boys (I know girls are affected to but I have not had any experience with that. My experience is with betrayal trauma spouse, sons who struggle, and a family history of male involvement in pornography addiction). So I came acrosss these lines to say to a small child. I like this and I may use this next time with my son. Does not seems so scary and cringing inside and being afraid for his future ability to not be addicted in a image saturated world of immodesty. From blog called Women for Decency:

My husband and I now have two sons. And if you think talking about pornography with a date is awkward, try talking about pornography with a four-year-old.
I started real simple: “Son, there are things that can hurt your brain: 1) bad pictures, called pornography, and 2) bad stuff you eat, called drugs or alcohol.” My son didn’t flinch. He didn’t implode or have a seizure. He looked at me, nodded approvingly, and then he returned to playing with his trucks. No big deal.
And then I kept talking about it. For example, when I noticed him looking innocently at immodest women on a magazine cover at the grocery store, I said, “Let’s give that woman her privacy. Looks like she’s not quite dressed – plus pictures like that will hurt your brain.” He nodded approvingly and looked away. No big deal.
Driving in the car the other day, he said, “Mom, there’s a bad picture. I won’t look at it, so my brain won’t get hurt.”
Talking about pornography doesn’t have to be painful. Of course, it may be at first. Please don’t say, “I tried talking about pornography once, it didn’t go very well.” Try again, for heaven’s sake. Keep trying!
The more I’ve practiced talking about pornography, the easier it’s become. It does get awkward sometimes, but I talk about it because I care about my family and community.

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